I posted in the newcomers but needed advice

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and...25yearsMLC You are SO RIGHT about everything you have said..I wish I could detach better. I just get caught up in all of his drama!I feel so responsible for his life. SO responsible for making him feel like he cannot talk to me..I have never had someone tell me that feel like they cannot talk to me.

My W has told me similar things about nor being able to talk to me. And perhaps she's right but in absence of mind reading powers, I can't see entirely why that would be.

I am not really one to give advice here but something I know to be true, and I have tried to put into place, is ignoring what my W says to me, especially in the way of criticism. The WS tries to rewrite marriage history to suit themselves (and if your H is anything like my W you will have heard umpteen different stories about why you split) and it can therefore be safely ignored.

He is saying what he needs to to make HIMSELF feel better and the best way to make yourself stop hurting is to HURT the one closest to you. That would be you.