Change and time. Period. That's all you can do.

Make changes and let them become permanent. You're going to have to start off slow but she has to BELIEVE that what you are doing is going to be permanent.

Sorry that you find yourself here, but you're actually in a good position. Keep posting here.

M-43 W-40
2D - 9 and 5

Emotion, yet peace.
Ignorance, yet knowledge.
Passion, yet serenity.
Chaos, yet harmony.
Death, yet a new life.

RECONCILED AND WISER