25...read your entire post. It makes total sense. Ironically, then, it sounds like most women shouldn't even settle out of court. Why not just go to trial then? Think about it. By going to trial:

-STBXW can get maintenance
-STBXW can get sole custody
-STBXW can get residential custody
-STBXW probabably WILL get me to be assigned ONE night during the week once the judge gets thru with this

Why, then, 25....should STBXW settle out of court? She wins big from the get go this way. If I were her, I WOULDN"T SETTLE EITHER.

FIB

Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11)
Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t
Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10
Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;