I am reading the beginning of DR. There is a section where it talks about WAW. The wife goes silent while waiting on the divorce time to come. The husband thinks things are fine so he is happy. Then the wife drops the D word and he is shocked. He will do anything to make the marriage work but she is done. It goes on to say that is she knew the truth about divorce she might stick around long enough to see the changes take place.

Take that exact scenario and reverse the roles. I thought things were going great and then he drops the bomb on me. Now I an dedicated to change and he won't take the time to stop and watch it happen.

Me: 33 / H: 36
M: 10y / T: 14y
3 kids
BD: 2/22/14
Live in separation 3/8/14
H consult lawyer, says filing asap 4/24/14
H moved out 4/25/14
2nd time around. 1st separation 4y ago lasted a month