Karen, That is perfect. I would not change a thing. I would send a cc to the special education supervisor also. As we all know the squeaky wheel gets the oil. I have told many of my parents that before.
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
PERFECT Karen! That written request will get the ball rolling faster than you know. It wasn't until I basically stormed the school and demanded that they do intensive testing and observation for Marc that I was able to get anywhere with special services.
Marc was in a self-contained room for 5th grade and it was the best thing that could have ever been done for him. He had to switch schools for that year but since it was self-contained anyway it didn't really make any difference.
Definitely squeek, squeek, squeek. You are your child's only and best advocate!
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No, do you think I should or just not? Maybe just ignore it. Is it just a button-pusher or maybe to use against me in court? So nothing? What do you think?
I've been typing up a Parent's Handbook it's going to have a dozen pages, but I'm almost done!!! Yeah! Almost time to celebrate! Oh, but I forgot we have another tropical storm headed my way tonight and tomorrow I think.
I do think I've put us in a lot of GALing lately, me and the kids. Maybe a distraction b/c of you know what December 7th. When the soccer ends that might be good....I won't admit this ever to X though!
There is a good book, Negotiating the Special Education Maze. I was also able to go to a parent/child advocate - they worked on donations, and she went to the meetings with me. Made the district sit up and take notice.
Budgets are tight. They don't want another kid ID'd as spec ed, since it is more expensive.
I don't know since everything seems to push his buttons. He said no to copays, he knows you have been applying to different jobs but loves the idea of you working in a high risk job(at the gas station). He makes my head hurt. Maybe even a simple I am doing the best I can with the resources I have. Oh yeah that would make him hot, just like when my ex played the woe is me card and I said you put us all in this situation.
Maybe any kindness is lost on them and he only sees you as being a doormat because of it. Don't change a bit though, cause we adore you just the way you are!
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Maybe any kindness is lost on them and he only sees you as being a doormat because of it. kat
I think I won't email anything. I think sometimes he's po'd at me, vents his anger, and then he's over it by the time I respond. I do think he is one of those people that equates nice=doormat, but I think there is a way of being nice/fair and not letting people trample all over you. I like to think so anyway!
I do think I drive him crazy, which is so weird, b/c I don't think I'm someone that would do that to most people. I think it's about him though, not me.
There's actually been half a dozen jobs this week (I'm qualified for), and I've applied to almost all of them. I'm now well over 100 jobs!!!!
I'm applying to every PT and FT job ranging from $10,000 to $34,000. If I had that much money I wouldn't know what to do with it, but I'm sure the kids will help out with that!
Donna I didn't know you had a special ed child! It seems like most of us here do! My 2 have autism spectrum (PDD-NOS). I'm not a squeaky wheel by nature, but even both of my D9's teachers have told me that I need to get pushy. So the letter this week, hopefully will be a good start to that.
I am an elem art teacher, and both of my kids had speech issues. S14 especially had a speech delay/articulation problem that was exasperated by the techniques being used in the school system (I had no such problems with birth-three, who were wonderful and came to the house). He started to develop a stutter, and I got pissed. I was told to my face that the schools have to provide services, but not necessarily the best services! I was very fortunate that both kids tested out within 1st grade and I didn't have to deal with spec ed anymore.
Be the squeaky wheel all you need to, for as long as needed. Don't play too nice (just respectful but clearly knowledgeable). Bring another set of ears with you to the meetings.
I feel really terribly for kids whose parents are first-generation / uncomfortable with the schools for whatever reason. Those kids are at the mercy of budgets and personalities - it's not always what is best for the child.
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BTW, One of the things that struck me the most in your letter to your H was where you said that you thought that maybe you should stop being critical of each other and focus on your individual parenting. Also, I agree that the soccer is great for D9, self-esteem, learning to work on a team, friends, really the list of benefits could go on and on!
I guess I gave the wrong finger to the wrong man...
Just got today's nasty email from X. He is not going to allow me to take the kids to Tues. activities as he says I have overloaded them with activities. Since I unilaterally canceled D9's OT and didn't tell him (which is a total lie) he is going to find one for her in his town and take her so he can ensure she gets proper medical care. He also says he is upset I'm using the child support money to avoid getting a job....He's going to drop the kids off tomorrow at noon, although today is S16's birthday.
I forwarded that to my L. I guess it's all very predictable for him.
