It totally contradicts everything I have been standing for and everything I have said. I am really torn up today about it.
You shouldn't be; it is a simple choice.
If you want to keep standing for your marriage, tell this woman that you can't be more than friends with her right now.
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement