Can I save my marriage?

[TrentC]

Why do you think I an so capable? Its been six weeks and I an no further along which leads me to believe I may not be capable.

Because you tried it and it worked.

It's not a big deal that you backslid; we all backslide. I have my friends on speed dial every time I feel like freaking out about something.

Now, to be fair, my situation is a lot different than most of the ones on here. My wife has not left the house; we have had R talks that have pushed her to the brink of filing, but other than that it has been pretty amicable around the house, especially after the surgery.

But I know that once I stopped pushing her for R talk, I stopped getting the responses I didn't want to see.

By doing my 180's and trying to stick to them the best that I can, she can tell that I am trying to change. (And I don't discuss my 180's with her, so it probably comes across less like an attempt to show off to her.)