My story begins with a twist...

[Super Girl]

No judgements, I was just curious. I slept with my H for heaven's sakes. lol

Sounds like a good plan.

[praying_in_GA]

Trent, it sounds like things are headed in the right direction for you. Good for you!

[Lll54]

You are making huge strides Trent! Its great to hear. Just think of the changes even since I've been on here, 4 weeks and look! Well hopefully she comes back friday. Don't make that expectation in your head as you will be disappointed come friday night if she doesn't come. But here's to praying she does!

[TrentC]

You are making huge strides Trent! Its great to hear. Just think of the changes even since I've been on here, 4 weeks and look! Well hopefully she comes back friday. Don't make that expectation in your head as you will be disappointed come friday night if she doesn't come. But here's to praying she does!

I won't be disappointed if she doesn't come back right away. This weekend was bigger step than I expected, and so I'm sure she is going to regroup in her head.

[smith18]

Hey Trent -

I noticed your posts over on K4D's thread and saw you were from Oregon. Your situation sounds very hopefull right now. And you have your head on straight in having patience to wait this out while improving yourself for yourself.

One good book I read early on (besides DB and DR) was called Walk Out Woman by Dr Steve Stephens who has a Christian based marriage counseling practice in the Portland area:

http://www.drstevestephens.com/

Also, are you aware that Retrouvaille has couples weekends in Mount Angel?

It still may be too early on to be talking too much about MC, but I just wanted to let you know of some nearby ideas.

[TrentC]

I knew that there were Retrouvaille meetings in the area, but I'm not bringing up MC just yet.

I found a counselor off of this site that I want to go to, as well:

http://www.marriagefriendlytherapists.com/

[smith18]

I had seen the bio for Bob Davidson before - he sounds good.

I forced my W too early to see an MC. The one we saw was real close by in Tigard:

http://www.abeautifulmarriage.com/

[TrentC]

I had seen the bio for Bob Davidson before - he sounds good.

Actually, he was the one I was considering seeing.

[motherof3]

I have heard great things about Retrouvaille. But it won't do any good unless the timing is right and W is ready.

Sounds like you are doing a good job of not setting any exceptations. Keep it up. That way you may be in for a big surprise on Friday. And then again, maybe not. Either way it sounds like your R has made some postive strides.

[Gardener]

Here is hoping; we still have a ways to go.

She still can't bring herself to say "I love you" when I say it to her. And regardless of these breakthroughs, I still want to do joint MC with her.

Great progress. Just remember that you are still in the DBing phase and do have a ways to go in the M to keep things on track.

And since you are still in the DBing phase, maybe you should refrain from saying "I love you," like DBing suggests.