Lesson: R talk sucks you back into old patterns. I will avoid it from now on, simply agreeing with anything she says and not offering any "solutions." Anything else continues the patterns and helps convince her that nothing has changed.

~Mark

Me: 38
W: 34
Together: 9yrs
1st M: may '03
1st D: april '08
1st bomb: june '08
remarried: oct '08
2nd bomb: aug '09 --(W asked for D one week into 3 mo. trial separation which was meant to save our M)