My story begins with a twist...

[TrentC]

Slept in the same bed again last night.

If she needs to take this one day at a time, it's fine with me...

[Super Girl]

Congrats! You seem to be headed in the right direction.

[TrentC]

Congrats! You seem to be headed in the right direction.

Here is hoping; we still have a ways to go.

She still can't bring herself to say "I love you" when I say it to her. And regardless of these breakthroughs, I still want to do joint MC with her.

[Lost Rabbit]

All sounding good Trent, my H hasnt said I love you yet, think its one of the last things they will hold onto probably!

[motherof3]

Here is hoping; we still have a ways to go.

She still can't bring herself to say "I love you" when I say it to her. And regardless of these breakthroughs, I still want to do joint MC with her.

Great progress. Just remember that you are still in the DBing phase and do have a ways to go in the M to keep things on track.

MC would be a good goal. Work up to it in baby steps.

[TrentC]

She is planning to sleep in the other bedroom tonight. I kinda expected that.

I told her that was fine and if she changes her mind, she knows where to find me; she doesn't have to wake me up and ask.

[PainfulDusk]

Hi trent, thx for stopping by my thread. I read as much as time would allow on ur sitch but you have made some great progress. In agreement with mother...you are still in DB stages so take it slow and easy. =)

Dusk

[TrentC]

She told me this morning that the reason she went back to the spare bedroom is because we both need a good night's sleep during the week, and experimenting with the sleeping arrangements right now was not a good idea. (She's scheduled to go back to work this week, if her doctor clears her to do so during her followup appointment tomorrow.)

I agreed, and told her that she's free to change her mind at any time. Maybe this means she'll be back on Friday night; maybe not. We'll see.

[Super Girl]

Trent, I'm confused...why are you telling her you love her?

[TrentC]

That is one of the complaints that came up during an R conversation early on. She feels like I was pulling away from her emotionally and ignoring her -- which I probably was, thanks to the stress of my job and putting my energy into playing WoW -- and she's also a person who needs words of affirmation. So I say a simple "I love you" every so often.

It may be construed as pursuing, but it's also a 180 for me; my family was not emotionally expressive growing up, and my wife has worked on me in the past to tell her how I feel.