Our current medical insurance is going to lapse and we’re getting a new policy jointly because it is cheaper and finances are tight for us both.

We’re meeting the insurance rep at a coffee joint tomorrow at 1:00. Saw W briefly yesterday and she asked if I wanted to meet at 12:00 and have lunch before we meet with the insurance rep. I said yes but now I’m second-guessing that decision.

Since the separation W has been giving me the “I want us to be good friends” (so I won’t feel as guilty) routine. I’m afraid that having lunch with her will encourage her and that she’ll think I’m going along with that.

Anyone have some advice for me?


H: 50
W: 48
Married 20 years
Bomb and separation: 9/12/09
A discovered 12/02/09
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