Last night she got home and as I was packing she told me that I did nto have to go, but could stay in the hosue this week. That led into a short non confrontational discussion about our furture.
Paraphrase:
W "You dont have to go to the mountains if you dont want to" M "Well the weather looks kinda rough with the Hurricaine approaching.
Ugh. Makes you look WEAK.
Better answer: "I'll be fine (throw in a little laugh); thanks for your concern, tho -- that's sweet."
Quote:
W "OK, either way is good for us" M "Well, if I stay it might be good for us to see IF we can get along at all anymore.
Double-ugh! PURSUING! "Needy/grabby"!!! She tries to offer you a common courtesy (staying at the house, rather than going up to the mountains with bad weather approaching), and you immediately turn it into PURSUIT and R TALK.
Dude, you've been at this too long to keep making such BASIC tactical mistakes.
