Oh NO!!!! I am so sorry! I hope you have a job that is easily replaceable!
Let us know how mediation goes.
Stay strong!!
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!
"My actions are my only true belongings. I cannot escape the consequences of my actions. My actions are the ground upon which I stand." Thich Nhat Hanh
Well mediation we about as well as expected...I didn't get as much as I hoped but more than I thought I would based on past talks with XW...D should be official tomorrow.
On the job front, it's not that bad...I have a few things lined up and hoping I can get something that doesn't want me to start till the first of the year.
It's just weird knowing I'll be officially D tomorrow after all this time.
Me:40 W: 39 T: 17 years M: 15 years S-9 D-6 D final 11/10/2009
"We are all faced with a series of great opportunities brilliantly disguised as insoluble problems."
I'm sorry that things turned out the way they did for you. It's a helluva thing, divorce, after all those years together. I hope you continue to get better and stronger as time passes.
"Always go straight forward, and if you meet the devil, cut him in two and go between the pieces." - William Sturgis, clipper ship captain, 1830's.
My condolations on the "final" outcome. It will take some time, but you will reach a place of peace afterward. Just know, the 'sigh of relief' that tomorrow will certainly bring, will bite you in the arse hard so be ready, it's a false emotion.
Good luck on the job front, it is soo scarey out ther right now just to think 1 in every 10 people are unemployed or underemployed right now.
Me 35/XW 33 S13 & S12 M: 10/17/98 OM & S: 07/08 D final 06/09/09 12/03/09 - 06/13/10 "Piercing" 06/13/10: Engaged to Re-marry 10/17/10 06/25/10: Expecting baby #3 2/14/11
Funny thing we were separated for so long (over 2 years) it just seems like things are no different. We had a long talk Thursday night before the mediation both of us thought the same thing that we can't live in limbo and she didn't feel like she had another choice...Then she says but maybe the future will be better with us...first time in over a year and a half she said anything about "us"...
Mediator told us it was the friendliest mediation he's ever done and he's been doing it for 18 years...He asked me if there was anything he needed to tell XW for me, I said no we're meeting in the parking lot after, we've been texting the whole time...He just laughed and said that's not supposed to happen.
Me:40 W: 39 T: 17 years M: 15 years S-9 D-6 D final 11/10/2009
"We are all faced with a series of great opportunities brilliantly disguised as insoluble problems."
Im sorry about the final D but happy it went smoothly.
When my first exh and I went to mediation it was the same way. We were both friendly and went in knowing what we wanted and the mediator was shocked. I have always had a decent relationship with exh to this day....sure some quirky things but all in all really good.
Now on to bigger and better for you VD.
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!
