Newbie (again)

[dday101798]

Ok, I asked on Friday and will ask again..........

WHO is this person?

When I picked up the boys, XW of course did not have copies of S12's adoption papers as requested, big surprise there, but offered a deep hearted apology and will find them and make a copy ASAP.

Anyway, as I was picking up the boys she of course was the first one out of the house all happy go lucky. I had left work in a hurry and not taken off my ID badge I wear around my neck and S12 being his curious self was looking at it and made some comment that it didn't look like me, well it does look like me 3 years and almost 50 more pounds ago.

Anyway, XW went to take a look by grabbing the strap rather high, causing me to practically be breathing down her shirt? What in the world was that? I was very uncomfortable with that.

Then the shocker, all the sudden, SHE is the one who wants to start doing 'family things'! It was started mainly when I made mention that I'm making plans for next July to take my vacation time with them around the time the NASCAR race rolls into town and finally go with them. But, go figure, the tickets are going on sale next month instead of in February as normal, so now that's probably going to be off. Then, S11 just blurts out, "oh yeah, Dad, if you get wrestling tickets, Mom says she'll go!".

My jaw just dropped, I look at ehr like, 'really', and she's just gleaming with this 'hell yeah' look and says somthing to the effect of wanting to do things now. What is with THIS change of heart all the sudden?

I was talking with my Gram yesterday on the phone and I get this weird feeling she's been in contact with XW recently, not that I care, but some wierd things transpired in the conversation. Mainly, I think she's spot on that OM's "fire" has blown out and XW is starting to grow tired of him and is starting to hear the voice in her own head that's been telling her what she's done was wrong and it's getting louder and louder. My Gram di dfor one of the first time ask me point blank if I'd "take her back". I said "no, there's nothing to 'take back", which I mean as IF anything were to ever transpire it would be all new in a sense. My Gram did also ask really weird questions about ex-FIL and BIL's and how that all work out, of which I can only say, I don't know.

This is all just so weird. Even the boys were acting weird and saying weird things that I jsut couldn't put my finger on. S11 again tho, did say that XW still plans to move 90 miles away and they don't want to go. Well, what I can I say, that's what the court is for, and this time you will have to speak up if you don't want to go.

But, of course, when I dropped them off last night, XW was her usual cold self again, kinda crabby and just seemed to be looking to start something. Nothing really did aside from her asking why I hadn't replied to a text she sent when I was driving wanting to know if she had to give them baths or do laundry. I simply said, "I was doing 50 miles an hour driving, you know I don't use my phone when I'm on the road" and she got defensive.

I don't know, just simply don't know what is going through that mind of hers. I did notice a large piece of trim dangerously hanging off "her" car and said something to the effect that it needs to be strapped up or just removed all together and seh made this odd gesture that she had no-one to take care of it. Yup, it's all the little things I used to do hon, get used to it.