Hey Saffie.. that is a great suggestion! We own property and our finances are tangled and both our parents tell us we need to make wills (but we just havent !!) which is daft, I know.
Your sitch was different as he remained in the house and you have kids and OW would have KNOWN that. And yes, what type of woman leaves her own children?? Thats not good is it. I havent got to the bottom of Helen's involvement.. he admitted she was phoning him when we lived together (and some texts, one sent at midnight) and that she flirted with him and later finished with her long term partner for him. BUT, I dont know what he told her, that he lived with me or for how long, or maybe nothing at all until AFTER he had left me? I thikn it is strange she would phone him on his mobile in Aug-Oct 2007 she must've known he lived with me, but I dont think he was chasing her. He was also, very depressed at that time and says now he wasnt interested in her back then. She may well have been him though hey, looking at the evidence.
He says he didnt talk to her about me.. and yet, she told a MF's gf (someone I have now got to know) that she was worried about their R because he cant seem to get over his ex. He was surprised when I told him this after we reconciled (the gf told me that she had acted very odd one day, locked them both in the lounge and asked her what she knew etc).. so I am guessing she DID know about me, before they got together, or before he left me, because he has twice said he didnt really talk to her at all about me when they were together.
My Mum always said she was chasing him.. but who really knows hey???
I dont blame you for not liking her! K's sitch is similiar to yours, I thought of you when I was posting earlier. I am sure it was you (?) that gently reminded me not to demonise the OW. And thats right of course, its not really their fault. My bf wasnt with me when he dated her (although he had led me up the garden path most of that year!) so I guess she wasnt an ow, strictly.
