I think whats really bothering me is the comment he made about considering me his wife and then raising his eyebrows when I said, but I'm not though..? It doesnt look like he has the gumption or enthusiasm for life right now to talk about the future and make plans, including asking me to marry him. I'm hurt and discouraged by that in truth. We've been friends 14 years in January, together (apart from a gap!) for 11 in February and after all we've been through and the love and commitment I've shown him.. he STILL doesnt want to stand up in front of those who love us and marry me??? And I dont want to ask him to marry me
I know this is an emotional issue you are discussing here Ali, and I don't want to deviate from it being that really, but you might want to draw to his attention all this stuff in the UK press at the moment about common law partners, and their lack of rights when one of them dies.I know we don't like to think about dying, but being married does proetct us to some extent if your partner dies without making a will.
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I told him at the weekend I feel she has taken something or has something thats mine and I guess thats what it is, but that I realise its not her fault.
Ali, you are so nice. I can't be so forgiving about OW in my sitch. I was so hung up about her after reconciling that she still nearly ruined my M even though as far as my H was concerned she was history. In the end I just had to acknowledge that it was ok to dislike her for her part and for her 'stealing' something she should never have had. I don't know about Helen, but my H's OW knew exactly what she was doing and was out for all she could get; she didn't care who she hurt in the process as long as she was ok, and that included her own very young children who she abandoned to her H!!!
Do you REALLY believe it was not Helen's fault in any way?
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
