Originally Posted By: ugetvince
Ive never abused my wife! I dont appreciate you saying that.


Look, I don't know you from Adam. But based on her responses, there seems to be more to her leaving then just being done with the R.

And abuse doesn't have to be physical. It looks like there is a pattern of you using guilt and manipulation on her. That might be a good place to start working on things.

Originally Posted By: ugetvince
Ive just been thru the worst 1 amd 1/2 of my life and on top of it I lost the person I thought would stick by my side thru the good and bad.


Yes, because no one else on this board feels hurt or betrayed because their partner hasn't been there for them, or is leaving them, or has been unfaithful to them. This is the wrong place to play that game.

Originally Posted By: ugetvince
It not all me! I know i need to improve and be a better person and man but im not all to blame.


But you can't control her, no matter how hard you try. All you can control in this relationship is you. If you change yourself, you can change the nature of the relationship.

Listen to Mark; get to an IC and start getting yourself sorted out, or this won't the only failed relationship in your life.


Me: 44, Wife: 39
M: 17 years T: 20 years
Bomb on 08/25/09
1/13/10: MC started
1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs
8/28/10: Wife moved out
No talk of D, no movement

"Every day is another chance to get it right."