Good Morning guys, Bill, the no intimacy thing is because the doc said, no sex till he has the next test an dprobably the little procedure. At least that is what he told me. I havent tried to "seduce" him or anything and he hasnt either. I can wait till then. As much as I need to feel close to a man (yeah, I know how that sounds), I am not desperate to start initiating while he had told me he cant. Also, for me, it is important we get some elephants out of the room first.
I dont think he feels like telling me anything. Like what? He is pretty much in defense mode right now. Mentioning W was something like a breakthrough for him. He didnt allow himself to comment on this as he has told my friend.
And to answer your other very important question. When the affair happened, we were at the lowest point of our R. Both of us. I know that. As far as his answer, because I asked him exactly that question, is, I am the woman of his life, he loves me, he can tell me it wont happen again but there is no other way to prove it than show me as years go by.
Yes he is focused on him, he is trying to do damage control. Only he had no idea about how much the damage is. He is just now, starting to get it, believe it or not. As discussed before, in one of my fun threads, my stbxh is a "pigstrich" (pig/ostrich). I think he wished and hoped we could go just turn a switch on and go back to our happy days.
John,a fixation it is. Point taken and accepted. I am allowed to a few, no? How is my niece?
RTL, I think he is far from getting that. And that is my biggest fear. Not that he will cheat on me again, that I will end up in a relationship with a man that will be boring and stagnate. K
Saffie, will check to see if we are friends... Thanks
