From the outside, that sounds better than I expected. He is like most of the cheaters on the board. They hope that they can balance both the affair and the marriage. But it is better than those ready to toss the marriage and charge full-steam after the affair. He is not leaving yet. And he seems to know which way he needs to go. He just doesn't have the courage to do it.
Good luck at the DB office. Perhaps he will see even more light after that day.
