You know Bunny, I agree with a previous post, so many things about your h just don't pass the smell test. Plus, I think the tickets are a bad idea because mixed messages are a bad idea.
Also, I think I would move every single thing that you would like to keep out of the house. Put the pool table and anything else in a storage unit till you get a bigger place.
I think you are a very brave woman and are doing the right thing. Your IC is way off base as far as the "mutual decision" crap. What the hell is up with these "professionals" anyway? Jeez.....I don't think it's a good idea at all to tell him too far in advance. I would tell him the same day that the moving company shows up. And make sure you hire a truck that is big enough to get everything all in one load.
