Seriously, do you really want a person who stays with you out of pity?
Passive/aggressive relationships are doomed relationships. She is done dealing with that, so man up buddy and realize that you have to deal with her on a mature level.
Get your own life and SHOW that you don't need her pity for you to survive. You're too used to her soothing you and making you feel better whenever things go wrong. She doesn't want to be your mommy.
I know this from personal experience, so realize NOW that guilting her into doing anything for you is a big mistake.
Pretend it worked, then you're doomed to a R where your big control button is to act wounded and expect her to do whatever is needed to make you feel better. I DID that and it ended badly and I'm trying to fix what's left of the R. Stop doing that. Get to a C ASAP and talk about passive/aggressive relationships.
Do a 180 and stop expecting her to kiss your booboos and maybe she'll start showing some respect for you.
~Mark
Me: 38 W: 34 Together: 9yrs 1st M: may '03 1st D: april '08 1st bomb: june '08 remarried: oct '08 2nd bomb: aug '09 --(W asked for D one week into 3 mo. trial separation which was meant to save our M)
