OOPS-submitted too quick. He also told daughter the OW was not bad like they (kids) were making her out to be. My daugher said her father should realize they would never like her no matter what as she helped break up our family. At the funeral, my H had me at his side and alowed me to comfort him. He stayed in our home all three nights as he wanted t see our daughter as much as possible. THis morning he found me crying a little in the hall and hugged me and siad "dont cry just give me a some time" He also told daughter he was dialing it down some with the OW (small comfort that is). People on the board say exposing the affair to the light of day will make some changes happen. I dont know if I am really seeing that or if I am not being patient. THe A is less and less secret--my kids know, some of our friends know. My H seems to be hinting he is thinking more about our family.My son thinks everything he says is just a lie because he has forgotten how to tell the truth. I second guess myself about being "too nice" although I think he is responding to it but I am uncertain if he will think I am not fighting hard enough for him as you said you did Saffie. This Friday we spend a day at the DB office in Ill ostensily to work on how to help the kids as he doesnt have much interest in MC per se. I need prayers and advice. I am getting a little hopeful but am I being an idiot--while he has me and the kids at the funeral and wih extended family afterward he still was texting back and forth with her-after he told my daughter it was OW who wouldnt stop texting him and it was mostly work related (not)
