My first reaction: you're supplicating. And that never works.
You're taking all of the responsibility for the marital failures, when SHE'S the one cheating on you?
Let me ask you: has she communicated significant marital complaints to you over the years? Or is this out of the blue?
She's obviously highly sensitive about the OM, and getting exposed. I suggest you use that to your advantage, and seriously consider exposing their affair, especially at work.
Puppy
Yes, your right. I didn't see it as supplicating, but that's what it has turned into. I've been reading your posts and I need to seriously improve my mindset. At first, it was an 180 from what she was used to. I would usually try to reason with her, find a compromise. She did say she was shocked by my response after the bomb, but really I think it's just serving here WAW needs.
No, she has not communicated significant complaints. In fact, when I've confronted her several times over the past years about her emotional detachment, she claimed that it had nothing to do with me, but rather with her depression and said I just needed to be patient with her. After the bomb, she said "I shouldn't have had to say anything", and now she admits that she didn't say anything but it doesn't matter because she is a changed person.
As to the OM, I have seriously consider exposing it, but I don't have enough evidence. It's all circumstantial, and not conclusive, but it seems unlikely based on her behavior. She protest too much. There is another consideration: exposing it will definitely lead to her losing her job.
(I need to learn how to do the multiple quotes in one reply)
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