I have to stop reacting to anything to do with OW. That is always how the fights start.
Truly detaching means I am letting go of the outcome of his choices... because they are HIS choices, even about her. And the consequences of those choices are also HIS to own.
Our R talk last night included him trying to find ways to convince me that this be a mutual decision so I would soften those consequences for him. I will not do that. Which is why we need to stay away from R talks altogether.
