Do they have to leave to be a WAW?

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It's only been about 17 days. She dropped the bomb on Oct 23rd: ILYBINILWY. I have a posting under newcomers titled "longtime coming" with some details. A lot has happened in the 17 days, and I wished I had been started posting sooner.

Basically, she hasn't asked to move out, she hasn't asked for a divorce. I moved out of the bedroom myself; my mistake. I think what she wants is for us to live together in the same house for the next four years while she finishes graduate school and a doctorate and our S13 finishes high school (my D turned 17 today). She's employed, and provides the health insurance. I'm self-employed and make at least 65% of our income.

D17 snuck downstairs and listened to about an hour of our conversations which basically consisted of me saying I was sorry my wife was in so much pain and that I was ashamed that I been blind to it, and she saying that she wants to move on..somehow. D17 then told wife in the morning that she was mad at her for "not wanting to try".

She spends a lot of time telling me that she'll make sure I have health insurance and that I'm "taken care of". I suspect that if I offered to move out and get an apartment she would leap at it.

We are spending money on MC, but I'm wondering if it's a waste and I should drop it completely as I focus on GAL. Is she just doing it to appease D17, or to further her goal of us staying in the house together.

What do you think?