So now I'm back at square one. I don't think DB is going to do anything for my marriage. My husband is in a different place right now. And I think I've just got to move on even though we've been making progress and baby steps everyday he proved it meant nothing last night. The guy even called me yesterday to ask me to come watch hockey. He told me he wanted me there. He called me his "wife" to my girlfriend. But that all means nothing. So good luck to everybody. I hope you all get through this and are successful. But I'm moving on. I've given up hope. Take care.
Girl, you've got to have some patience. You just admitted that you were making baby steps. Enjoy those small successes and keep the progress going. Have you read thru all of DR - Michele specifically says that this takes time. It took a long time to get to this point and it's also going to take a long time to get out (You being a new mother too have probably heard the saying, "It takes 9 months to have your baby and it takes 9 months to get your original body back.") Just saying, things don't change overnight. You just have to learn from this experience and grow from it. Remember basic rule #1 - DO NOT PURSUE. Inviting H home is definitely pursuing and it definitely put H is an akward spot. At some point you will get there, but you weren't there yet. I keep making mistakes and falling back myself, but I've keep learning from them. Good luck with whatever you decide! (but like the others said above, give yourself a cooling off period first before you make any drastic decisions.)
Me 27; H 28; S 2 Togeth 9; M 4 Sep 11/14/08 EA OW1 Sep 08 EA OW2 Mar 09 EA OW3 Jun 10
