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To all..in retrospect, I realize that I will NOT totally lose my children. She WILL do her best to alienate them from me (dramatics indeed, Kerry. Thanks for the a$$ kick).

Again, in NYS, they do NOT have joint legal custody in a courtroom. Only sole custody is awarded. I agree with my L in that, "FIB, you must get rid of this woman or you will find yourself in family court for the rest of your life. I am convinced that the children would be better off with you."

Well, obviously, that will now be in the judge's hands.

10/30...STBXW came home at 930P with kids after I asked her to have them home so I could have dinner with them. S9's cousins were in the house and she ejected them on arrival leaving him in tears (always throws them out). It was a Friday, no school the next day. I asked her to let them stay a few minutes. Pushing further would have created an ugly scene and she might have called the police or filed something.

10/31...she never trick or treated with them in spite of her requesting that I bring them home.

Yesterday, S9 told me that he was afraid to call me when he is with her. Today, S9 asked his mom, "mom, when are you going to vacuum and mop the floor again?". STBXW paused and responded, "I don't know. When are you going to help?"

It's just horrible with her now. Horrible.

I trust my L. I have discussed the parenting thing with her at many steps along the way. Even in her seventies she is bright and has been doing this for over 35 years...faxes me current supreme court rulings that will support us.

Thank G-d I kept this blog here. It is my diary. In Aug '06 my MIL HIT my son during a temper tantrum he had (age 6) and told me that she called STBXW and told her that "whatever she was doing was hurting the kids and that she should stop it right away."

To all....I have no intention of losing my cool or bashing my W. My only plan to is try and show the judge that a professional man in the year 2009 can be a hands on loving dad..provide an emotionally safe and loving home for his kids....and keep their mom in the lives of their kids without anger or malice. In any case, as Jeff223 knows in AL, the odds are still HEAVILY STACKED in favor of my STBXW getting sole custody.

I have my work cut out for me and I am prepping. What keeps me going is that it is SHE who is now driving this to court...not me. As such, I have to protect myself.

I pray...that the judge is a savvy man and is not bound down by stereotypes. In spite of giving lectures in a packed auditorium...and having to explain patient care in Moribity and Mortality conferences, as a resident, I am apprehensive about going to trial, but, I will do what is required. I've grown a lot since the beginning. I know the type of man that must be there.

FIB