Ohh and stbxh just called, upbeat and happy to tell me about his day. When I asked if there is anything I should know or anything I want to know, he very wilingly said "no, no sms, no calls, nothing from her" a bit surprised. I asked he is was upset about it or dissapointed. He said "no, no, not at all, I dont care". I changed the subject to something else (his work) and we ended the call on a "light" tune. K
He just called again, the other chief editor gave him a camera as a gift. I asked him to remind him (the other editor) my nameday is coming up soon and I want a rolex... LOLOL K
And what is different in him now so that he knows he won't decide sometime in the future that he needs a "her" again?
Saying things like "when they are done, they are done," is certainly hopeful, but not very realistic. At least not if you've spent time browsing the many threads here.
I'm glad you've had YOUR say, and to his face to boot.
I would feel better for you if he felt a similar overwhelming compulsion to have HIS say to you.
Still waiting for the sign from him that he is sorry and is once again madly in love with you.
A husband who loves his wife would have already loved his wife if you know what I mean. Don't make light of the significance of his inability to allow intimacy with you.
Caution, caution, caution....
"Don't tell me the sky is the limit when there are footprints on the moon."
He said he just doesn't want to embarg in a convo with her. He feels if he tells her what I asked him to, he will have to asnwer questions.
Not to continue to be the sad face in the room, but, as a man, his line here is a complete load of horseshit.
Once again, it depends on where he is coming from. If he has AWOKEN and found his love for you again, what you have asked from him here is SIMPLE. Moreover, if he was really focused on YOU, it wouldn't matter what HER response or question was.
He's still focused on HIM...
"Don't tell me the sky is the limit when there are footprints on the moon."
I have come over here as you asked, but I am only making a quick visit and typing this post so as to 'bookmark' your thread for a read later.
I am good friends with Lotus who I think you know in the alternate universe. Get my email of her if you want and give me a summary of your sitch. It would really help get me up to speed.
I think we may already be 'friends' in the Alt universe in which case you should be able to cntact me anyways. I am off to bed now but I will just go check FB before I go
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
Hey cuz, i agree with bworl, knowing this is what you want, he should have done it a long time ago and not dragged it out....hope we are both wrong however.
<< I will tell him it is a dealbreaker and until he does, I am "out".>> Do you think threatening him with this will make him at least send an e-mail? I am not a woman nor have I read any (self help) piecing or recovering from affairs books and therefore, I do not really understand this fixation on her. I say fixation because asking if she contacted him and then following that up with were you sad about it? Let's face it even if he was sad or disappointed, how could he possibly be honest about that?
I guess my experiences have changed me and made me slightly cynical.
It's not enough to take for granted love exists, you have to show it to your partner
I'm glad you told him this. I hope he understands it b/c it is exactly what I did w/my M. I see it clearly now as one of the things I did wrong in my M.
Don't get me wrong, my XW did some very hurtful and awful things as well, but in retrospect, I did take it for granted that I was married and didn't SHOW my love enough.
It is something I learned and I really, really hope H heard you and is able to process it.
