At some point I told him if he were to disappear today, I would live my life fine without him. That he taught me how to do that. He said "then, you dont love me, I taught you how to stop loving me". I didnt reply.
Dear boy doesn't understand what you have learned, that "love" and "need" are two different things. He is like so many, driven by feelings, needs, impulses.
My T just recommended, "The Road Less Traveled" by M. Scott Peck. She said both I and my H should read it. And that was in light of our conversation about this very topic of H's living and making decisions based on feelings, needs, and impulses.
The beauty of what you expressed is that you are finally exhibiting your truth without being driven by fear of losing him. That seems like a strong place to be. I check in here always hoping for the best for you. You deserve it.
