Hey Grace! Yeah, kids are very smart, girl I know I work with them all day and they are very intuitive!! And my S is exceptionally smart, not your average 9yo.
Holidays-- Let's see, Thanksgiving they will be with me Wed, their dad and I are going to split the actual day b/c his fam does early in the day and mine does later, so that's what the kids are used to. Then they go with him Fri, Sat, and Sun. I have plans with a friend while they are gone that I'm looking forward to.
Christmas I will have them the first half and he has them the second half of break. I'm letting him have them Christmas Eve cuz that's when his fam does their thing. I'll have them Christmas day then they go with him the next day.
I have plans with my friend when they leave and some fun stuff planned for New Years... so I should be okay.
I will still worry about them while they're with him though, cuz I know they don't like being away from me that long AND I know he is very emotionally unstable. I just try to stay busy and keep my mind off of stuff.
I just have the fear that he tries to hurt me through them, which he has done recently (by playing games like turning off my son's cell phone and being unreachable, saying stuff to my D that is derrogatory, etc.) I just really don't know what is in his head. You know, you can't DO anything unless they physically harm them, which is Bull Sh*t, and if he does ever physically hurt them he better hope the cops get to him before I do. Anyway, that's just one part of this system that sucks... and I'm doing my best to deal with it.
Sometimes I find myself saying why can't I have a SANE ex... lol... then I go, oh yeah, that's why we're divorced....
"Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out." Robert Collier
"One's best success often comes after their greatest disappointments." Henry Ward Beecher
