H then said he really needed to talk about his big questions of whether we were ever meant to be together, would we be happier apart, maybe that would be make the kids happier etc etc. At first I was arguing my perspective but finally got smart enough to shut up. So, finally just listened. Pretty discouraged. He sounds pretty far down the road in his decision that we should D.
Rocked,
As long as he is involved with this OW, all of his feelings, judgment and decision-making are going to be clouded by the adrenaline rush of their illicit relationship. Although I know they sting, you should NOT take too much stock in his WORDS.
It's become trite, but nonetheless VERY TRUE:
"Believe HALF of what they do, and NONE of what they say."
Spouses who are wayward will exert a great deal of effort trying to get you to sit still to listen to their justifications and complaints, as they are CONFUSED and feeling GUILTY. Projecting some of that onto YOU makes him feel better.
