Fallgirl, This bb is to assist you, the poster, no matter whether your marriage is saved or not. It's a great support system for coming here and bouncing things off of the other posters. You are by no means a fraud!
Your h is a total fool and he will realize this one day. It may not be in time to reconcile w/you, but before he's ready to cross over to other side, he will realize what he had and what he lost.
Yes, it's sad for the childern, but your children are far better off with you being the stable and sane parent right now and not having any expectations as to what your h will or will not do for and/or w/them. Your h is a very lost soul and will have ups and downs for a good while. It's good that you have activities to keep you and your children busy.
Fallgirl, you will be okay. Give yourself a break and understand that no matter what happens we are here for you. Not every marriage will be saved and posters new and old will learn this along the path they travel.
I do hope that you are recovering from your accident and you are following your doctor's orders and what your body is telling you to do. Accidents do have a way of making you focus on what is important right now...you, your recovery and your children.
