You know what? Once, sure. Accidents happen. Twice? A punch is not a grab, and enough force to split a lip is not playing around. Three times? Don't make me laugh.
So much stuff about your H. does not pass my smell test, in a very creepy way, far beyond garden-variety "bad partner". I am very glad you're getting out.
Please be very careful. I know you don't think you need to, but this is not a thing you want to find yourself mistaken about, when it's too late.
"Show me a completely smooth operation and I'll show you someone who's covering mistakes. Real boats rock." -- Frank Herbert