Man I am sick of these people. "I was just with you for 10 years, built a life, with kids and all but I'm not sure I was ever really into it".
Sorry but my wife just gave me the same basic B.S. 2 young kids and all.
I'm really new here my advice for today is to Accept. It's so hard I know but you have to come out of this in one piece and sane. You have to take care of your babies.
You can't change anyone except yourself. Who knows what tomorrow will bring but YOU have to be okay.
Check out my user name. You get some too and hang in there.