Sanderika, although getting a divorce goes against everything that you believe in, you really must go ahead this time. It's been postponed twice for the purpose of reconciliation. I remember reading about this in your posts.
If H's intention was to reconcile there would be definite action in this regard. Sadly this is not the case.
However, as a positive, his lack of action allows you to regain control of your life by moving forward with divorce proceedings. It sends H a real clear message that you have given him every opportunity to reconcile with you but now you are moving on. I suspect that in doing this, the way forward will be so much clearer for you.
I have reflected on my kids and how they treat H. Like your son, they say no to H if they feel like it and they are strong enough to tell H when he's being unreasonable. This was especially apparent in the early days. That made H annoyed in the beginning but after a while H was texting and calling and sending invitations to them. H didn't want to lose them.
It's a difficult time for you Sanderika and you know we are all here for you. You can do this!
In Australia, divorce is no fault. It will be a case of completing and lodging the paperwork once our business is sorted and our financial matters are settled. For me, the financial settlement will be my hurdle and certainly my way forward. I know that I have avoided this aspect as I was avoiding conflict with H and of course, avoiding his temper tantrums. However, I also know that conflict is inevitable as I will only accept what is fair, especially given that I have had the kids with me with very minimal assistance from H.
Use this thread as a chance to journal and to seek support from your friends as you move forward.
