he is all about his needs in the moment. I can see that he must be depressed, must have absolutely no respect for himself, nor see himself as a person of worth whatsoever. that's the reason for the addictions. he is miserable and it is his out.

I'm not sure what to tell you about thanksgiving. either way there are pros and cons. I think it would be good for you to go for D's sake. But if it is not something you can handle, then you probably should not. perhaps give yourself a specific amount of time and have plans so that you have to leave by that time.

either way, I understand your choice to make.

BUT! I'm glad that you've been focused on D and the fun at halloween!

Me 33 H 34 S9 S3
M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs)
EA/PA 1/2006
DB 5/2006
H wants D 6/2006
H wants ME 8/2006
H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006
H erased OW off phone! 2/2007

"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."