Long Journey .......... advice please

[Sanderika]

Gucci, thank you for answering my "as if" scenario. I get it, get it, get it.....You nailed it from what I see in behaviors.

I have the choice to go forward with the D in December. I counterclaimed H's petition against me last fall. I can waive, postpone, move forward or dismiss my case. I bet your vote for me is to move forward at this time.

Cas, this is such a helpful thread!!! I am a slow learner in this subject and I know it is lack of confidence and fear and a lack of self esteem when around H. In the other aspects of my life I am like you....very capable, strong, content and getting along very nicely as a single mom with all the responsibilites I have to deal with such as my two jobs and my home.

I have let H get away with this cr*p long enough. What is meant to be.....will be. It certainly feels that my H is right where Gucci has him pegged to be. I do not see H moving in any direction without a huge wake-up call. I am trying to come to grips with moving forward in the D. If I tell my L to move forward, I want to stay the path. This is going to be very hard for me. I don't consider this a game, I want something to change. If it's over it's over. I have tried in doing my absolute best to turn this around. I guess it's a positive that he doesn't hate me. I will leave it at that.

Today H showed up at the house to haul an antique truck to a show. Invited son (not me) and son declined the invite. H showed up without notice or previous plan with son. I think there is a lesson in that for me. I didn't push son to go. I let it be his choice. I don't care what H thought. It honestly didn't seem to affect him at all.

Thank you all.....

Sanderika