Do I tell H that the 'game plan' has changed or do I just change the plan and let him discover it. I will see him this week at my D's school awards night. What difference in me should he see/sense?
You don't tell him a thing. That is the mistake that so many make. You just change the plan. Regarding the awards night there shouldn't be a big noticeable change in you. You don't seek him out. If he seeks you out then be cordial. You do however need to have a sense or an air of mystery. An air of your mind being in another place. End the conversation quickly and end it first.
What kinds of thngs would make me wonder about a woman? I think that if she was texting on her phone half the night or talking softly on it would make an impression even though I would not say or ask about it. It would make me wonder though, especially if I noticed a change in her demeanor. Rushing out the door right after the ceremony would also make me wonder if combined with the new demeanor.
And then you should let that sink in and leave him alone. Start to become less available and hard to pin down. Seem to be busy and always seem to be acting as if you are trying to get off the phone or get rid of him even though you are not mean or nasty. Just busy and in another world of your own. You need to get him CURIOUS to what is going on with you. That is the first "baby step."
