Hey K, can't sleep....so i figured i would drop you a line or three. For what it's worth, I also find it strange that a WAS who is trying to reconcile can not find the stregth or courage to at least offer change or offer some of what you want. Not forever but a few months, weeks. It's the least he can do to try.....no? So instead he offers: this is who i am. Well at least you have to give him points for being honest. I guess you have your answer .... the H you have before you is pretty much what you will get. +/- 20% either way but that is pretty much it. Ball is in your court. Either you accept him as is or you choose another path. It is strange that asking him to be compassionate and show you some well deserved love after 3.5 years of lies is asking him to be someone he is not. I can't believe it...you guys better get your behinds to a marriage counselor quickly because I get a sense that you both need someone ( athird party) to help you communicate. Either that or (here is another word you are not very fond of) settle.
J210
PS just thought of this...he mentions their relationship was new and therefore he could behave a certain way....is your relationship also not new in a sense as well? Sounds like he is taking you / your relationship for granted. Something is wrong here....it does not add up.
