Rabbit, I probably need to clarify the bit about confidence....I am quite confident in my day to day life. I just lack confidence right now in how I go about things from this point given the extraordinary amount of input I have had on my thread lately.
I don't make any plans with H re the kids. They are 15 and 17 so old enough to organise what they want to do with him, and in no need of babysitting. For example, D organised the tickets and invited us both to her awards night. D is staying over at H's tomorrow night which is something H and D arranged.
As for going out, I am fairly social. In fact, it's probably been a bone of contention over the years between H and I because I am much more social than H.
Perhaps you could make some suggestions to extend me further? At the moment I walk everyday with a group and we coffee/breakfast every Friday. I go to the movies every couple of weeks and regularly see live theatre. I go to a women's gym (but not since my surgery...still not allowed). My work place is pretty social and I join in with most activities. I spend time with my parents who live a short distance. I probably need to extend my friendship group a little as it's mostly females and married couples. I could invite more people over to dinner/bbq. Time is a bit of an issue as I have a career and part time study as well. And of course there's the work/life balance needed to keep the health in check and the usual running around after D and the household stuff!
So thinking out loud..... I will start to invite friends here and look at ways to extend my friendship group. Any other suggestions Rabbit?
PS As I re-read what I had written I thought the logical thing is to change gyms but I go to one of those 30 min circuit gyms which I quite enjoy.
