She may not understand exactly what those responsibilities are regarding your D. I think I would be somewhat confused if it were me.
My W wants the contact. She was like a mother to my D and always has been as her own mother isn't great. She has been through 7 years of fighting for us to see my D. She has been through courts, social services, social workers etc. etc. Her legal responsibilities are none but I would hope she has some moral responsibilities. She is very maternal and treated my D like her own.
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(BTW, I have read all your posts from the beginning.) But one time you talk as if you want your W & D to have a strong R and then another time you say you don't trust your W without supervised visits. You don't have to explain those details....but just pointing that out.
I understand what you are saying. Up until a few weeks ago the unsupervised bit wasn't even an issue. My D's mum and I started to get really at that time when my W texted my D's mum saying that she didn't want me involved in contact anymore because I was controlling her, she and the OM wanted to come around and talk to my D's mum about how best to stop my D getting confused about them and also that my D would HAVE TO meet the OM one day. This through both of us and the texts were quite forceful and completely inappropriate. We are both worried that my W will start to involve me D in her new family. That's why I no longer want contact to be unsupervised.
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She needs to believe that she has "lost" her place in your life and in that house that once was her home. She needs to see you moving on with a life without her.
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She is certainly moving on with a life apart from you. How can you pass her house each day and see OM's car there--and still say that you want to make sure she knows the door will still be open? And if the door is always open, then what are the consequences of her actions?
I don't pass the house every day. Now when I pass the top of her street I no longer look down it to see who / what is there. However I take your point.
That is food for thought. I never really thought about thta. I did tell her a few weeks ago that I did not want her back but clearly my actions since then say something else.
I'm going to ask something that you may not want to answer. As you have been in the WAW / A shoes, what would you think would be most effective in this situation?
