well i think I recovered ok. H called about an hour after that last post and I didn't pick up. He called both home and cell. Let it go. He was on his way home, so I just acted surprised and cheerful when he walked in the door, and I was keeping busy. I calmly informed H how I felt about his decision re: S. He explained his reasoning (S convinced him, apparently). I stood my ground calmly that we need to be on the same page. H agreed. Now H is hanging out in his room but with door open. Has chatted with me a bit about his work, etc. Just doing my own thing. I am hanging out with D13.
We live in a very small town... no mall... not really anywhere to go to GAL by yourself. And I actually hardly know anyone here. Long story but we moved here for the school for the kids. It has been good for the kids but not good for either H or me and definitely not for our M. H and I both commute at least half hour to get to our jobs, part of the reason H never home in evenings. If he has an evening commitment in the city (sports, meeting etc.) he stays in city til after. I don't get involved in much in city because one of us has to be home for kids and we used to divide that up pretty fairly. Now, I just know if I'm not there no one else will be so I don't feel able to get involved in anything else.
The bottom line is that I pretty much go to work, come home, take care of kids and when kids are busy am home alone in a town where I don't know anyone. I've gone for walks, etc. I have got to find some creative ways to GAL in this small town while still keeping an eye on what kids are doing.
