Can I save my marriage?

[TrentC]

Robx, you bring tears to my eyes because I know you're are dead right. My pain is just over taking me to a whole new level that I can't seem to handle. I understand that people on here don't complain as much as me, and honestly it sucks. Why do I have to be so weak?

That's why you need to find a new IC, who won't let you get off-topic to talk about your marriage. If he's not helping you work on you -- especially co-dependency issues -- then you're wasting your time.

I don't want to play one-upsmanship, but go look at what Serenity13 posted tonight. Then think about your relationship and how you are choosing to deal with it.

I have been through this before. My mom left my dad when I was 17, and I had to take on a new role in life.

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And now that I'm going through it myself I've lost the old me. Now my sisters are my rocks. They are the ones here every day in and out keeping me company and making sure me and my boys are okay. I want to find that 17 year old girl in me and bring her out. I look up to her as well. When I look at myself now, I'm disappointed. I don't like the way I am right now. My mind feels like its going to explode. I feel much further along in my process than I was 5 weeks ago, but no where near where I should be. Like you said there is people on here for months and years.

And as I said, you should talk to a doctor or your IC about medication. I was in a very similar place a couple of weeks after this started for me, and getting on anti-anxiety medication was the best thing ever for me; it shut off the crazy-talking part of my brain.