W wants D, does it look bad if I file for D?

[brknheart]

Bknheart,
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I want you to do all you can to save this M, so I encourage you to slow down making any decisions that could actually speed up a D, OK?

Thanks for the reply. I decided not to be the one who files. She actually said 3 mths ago she was going to file for divorce, never did. Now she says she doesnt have the time, going to wait until Dec when she graduates. Ive already started moving on, looking for a job in another city, possibly going back to school also. She insist the marriage is over, she will not get back together with me. All she thinks about is the negative things, nothing positive. I still want my W back, im not sure if she even exist anymore...