Heck she barely asks the girls what they are doing when they're with me. So different from the way she used to be.
This doesn't necessarily mean what you think it does. For me, and yes my sitch is different, but I stopped probing in any way because I really wanted to deal with the reality of being separated and not torture myself with that which I cannot control. I care very deeply but I know it is inappropriate and unhealthy to put my energy into H's time with or without the kids.
I am not saying it is the same with your W but I do think you are really spinning yourself trying to figure her out.
You may be better off asking her directly if you want a remotely accurate response...(though we know how that goes).
My H asked me why I don't seem to care and I told him. Different sitch, but I'm trying to make a broader point.
