I am happy for you that W is at least considering MC. I hope this ends up being a step in the right direction for both of you. Just be careful not to set any expectations.
Originally Posted By: givingitmyall
That said, if you are dealing with a WAS who has one foot out the door, I think your first priority is getting the WAS to slow down. That's where acting "as if," GAL'ing and focusing on you come in. I think those are things that get you, and the WAS, to a place where the types of conversations I described can take place. Having those conversations too early would not be good.
I would luv to have non-R conversations with my H. But I know that currently, the timing is not right. How will I know when it is safe to start these type of talks? Any example inidicators you would care to share?
Tough to say other than you will know it. There won't be any tension between you. You will find it easy to be around them. But, most of all, you will have reached a point where you accept that you will be just fine if you D.
