Can I save my marriage?

[TrentC]

Had an eye opening conversation with H today. He is hot one day cold the next, and today was a cold day. I'm tired of these hot and cold days.

Not to derail your efforts to start detaching, but we have pointed out in the past that good days will often be followed by bad days, as they pull back to evaluate what the good days mean to them:

"Wow, britt and I had a lot of fun last night. Maybe I should rethink this moving out thing. No! I still meant what I said, she may be trying to change but it won't stick, she's just doing it to get me back. I'll show her!"

As time goes on, the pullbacks may become less frequent and shorter as your H becomes convinced of the sincerity of your changes.