Do you have any kids together? Is she still involved with the OM? If you have no kids together then I would stay very dim to dark. She can send as many texts or emails as she wants. You are required to respond to none. I would collect the texts and emails and respond to maybe every 5th one with one big response. I would only respond to the important issues, for instance financial issues relating to the house. I would ignore texts regarding something cute fluffy her cat did.
If she is staying in contact, she is trying to keep you on the hook. If the OM is gone and she is willing to prove it, then you could allow more contact. If OM is still in the picture go even darker than you have been. If she questions you on this, tell her you will interact with her when the OM is gone.
Agree with this ^ 100%, as well as Down's last post, too. Smells like faux remorse/crocodile tears to me. BEWARE.
