yep I've come up with the same analysis in the past. Right now I'm just DBing by going out with female friends and whatnot. In my sitch, my W has given the impression of being totally emotionally checked out. But whatever. How she feels is not my concern. I only get involved when it has to deal with my Ds.
For me the tightrope walk is not being a hypocrite in my own eyes. Not hers. So right now I'm keeping my friends...friends but leaving the door open to see whatever happens at a natural progression.
Thanks for the reminder.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.