Still getting nowhere fast....

[TrentC]

Rob... I have been away for a bit so I am just now getting back on here to answer your questions. So here goes nothing....

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If your on here to help people, then don't come across as bad as my H has been treating already been treating me!!!

I could be wrong, but I think robx has made his point; and he is not subtle in how he does it, either.

If your husband refuses to give up on his sex fantasies, and you are unwilling to cater to them (and rightly so, make no mistake!) then the answer is clear.

This is a boundary issue; you didn't get married so that you could be shared with other people. It's time to look for someone who will treat you with the love and respect you deserve, and it's not going to be your husband.

You wouldn't be the first person to find out that their spouse isn't what they appeared to be; I have a friend whose (now ex-)husband became stone-cold abusive on the night of their honeymoon. She still wonders to this day how he managed to hide it from her.